If you didn’t catch my last post (or simply skipped over it because it was super long), my parents are currently living with me until their home is restored. In regards to TV watching, I don’t have anything but Amazon and Netflix. My parents wanted more than that, so they temporarily transferred their Direct TV service to my home. No complaints here as I’ve been able to catch a fair number of trashy reality TV shows on Bravo – – that’s totally a guilty pleasure of mine.
With all that watching, I came to the realization that Matt is very similar to Jax Taylor from the show Vanderpump Rules.
I mean damn…Jax is um…FLIPPING HOT, but it’s so much more than that and that’s where the similarities come in. It’s been probably 3-4 years since I last had Direct TV and saw an episode of the show. It’s crazy how the same dramatic people are still doing the same dramatic things – fighting, gossiping, cheating, lying, and getting wasted.
I remember watching episodes where Jax had slept with multiple women and of course lied about it. While his friends and co-workers were disgusted with his behavior, he always found a way to weasel his way back in or make some excuse for his behavior.
In a twisted way, he’s kind of fascinating to watch. His personality is like Matt’s (or vice versa). He has an undeniable amount of charisma and charm. He’s for sure a bit of a narcissist, a compulsive liar, and a womanizer. Both are some smooth talkers – – the types that could sell ice to an Eskimo.
Jax is uber manipulative. He can flash a smile and bat his gorgeous eyes and then fill a head with one fabrication after another. Matt can do that too. Do I know Jax? Um no, but I can see that both exude extraordinary charm and because of that, they can make a woman believe the most outlandish shit. Some people just have this knack for explaining their way out of every situation possible. They will do and say anything to get you to believe them. They will lie, blame, twist, manipulate, play the victim, and produce tears…whatever it takes and it will seem pretty genuine and sincere; pretty believable.
It seems like this type of person has a magnetic even hypnotic personality – – they can be super fun to be around. Their charm makes them very amusing and likeable. They have big personalities and bigger faults – – but you get so captivated by their charm, attention, and affection that you don’t see things for what they really are. You are captivated and blinded by the charisma that just oozes out of them so naturally. And you know what… at least for Matt…I don’t think he’s some dark, demented person. I think he’s a good person with a big heart. He has many great qualities. However, after looking back on things, I can much more clearly see the manipulation and scheming that took place. Sadly, I think the overuse of prescription meds just compounded everything and created another layer of deceitfulness. I mean…have you ever encountered complete transparency and consistent truth by someone abusing a substance? No, you haven’t.
This is so accurate….
They seem like the perfect boyfriend, and in the beginning they are attentive, thoughtful, generous, and kind. You become enamored and are swept off your feet. Although you maybe hear murmurings from friends or family (or in my case, Matt’s ex-wife) that he seems “too nice” you brush aside their comments. You only have eyes for him, and in those eyes, he’s “the one.”
The relationship moves quickly and he makes you feel chosen and special as if the secrets he shares are only between you two. He seeks your sympathy; telling you woes about his life and the people who have taken advantage of or hurt him. He might even speak disparagingly about his “crazy” ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, and you swallow the one-sided character assassination without question.
But for all of his perfect manners and perfect smile and perfectly attentive demeanor, this perfect catch hides a tremendous secret: beneath his polished and smiling façade is the proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing. He will disguise his true nature until it’s too late, and by then, you will have given your heart to this man. You will have believed the flattery and promises of endless love until you are older, wiser, and emotionally crushed by his ways.
Ahhhh…another broken heart that has healed and another life lesson learned.
I’m just so thankful that I have moved forward and that I feel much more motivated to write, connect with God, and workout.
And I don’t care how smoking hot he is, no man is worth dishonesty and manipulation.